Do you 'dance' when you want to?  

Do your clients?

When it's time to update your comfort zone to support your identity, apply 3 principles to make it happen easily.  

*** News flash  Fiona has been accepted to talk at the renowned NLP London conference in April 3rd year in a row. The theme is time space and motivation.     

It’s estimated that 95-97% of the time, our unconscious automatic programming runs our responses to the world:  How we feel, what we believe and even what we notice or miss. It also determines out comfort zone.

Do we feel comfortable putting ourselves forward for a project, job or activity?

Do we act like we value ourself (be honest - do you?)

Do we feel safe expressing our needs in relationships? 

And can we dance when we want to?

I recently watched a live band perform in front of Singapore Marina bay. The sound was good, the backdrop inspired and magical as white inflated balls on the water reflected coloured lights moving like waves of energy. The audience were engaged and tapping their feet but only two people were dancing.  A little girl about 5, and me.  

How a lead singer applied the principles we use in Thought Pattern Management to get everyone dancing in Singapore

in front of marina danceIt wasn’t until the lead singer announced that the next would be their last song and she asked “Would it be ok if I were to ask you to all dance with me?”   People nodded. 

Then she said  “Would it be ok if you were to all stand up now?”  and she gestured with hands to get up 

With permission granted, safety in numbers and a desired outcome, they all stood up and let themselves boogie away to a familiar old hit, Dancing Queen.     

What the singer did, includes 3 Thought Pattern Management principles that are so key to enabling change.  You can use them too. 

1. Gain permission  

She did this by asking gently - “Would it be ok?” There is no telling a client or their conscious mind what to do. Instead we INVITE the unconscious mind in a way that opens up the considering of possibilities. 

2. Make it safe. 

Change will not happen unless it is safe, according to the unconscious mind, that is also the body.  It is the body that releases chemicals that cause the sensation of stress and fear, way before our conscious mind has time to think. So we must do whatever we need to make it safe for the body to change.  The lead singer helped make it safe, as there is safety in numbers. 

3. Small steps to teach the mind

The singer invited just a small next step - standing up. Then to dance.  

when I coach people I encourage safe small steps, as it's more sustainable than having to force yourself with a big leap of will power.  Its also kinder to your body. In Thought Pattern Management practitioners learn how to teach the mind small steps then we invite the unconscious mind to apply what it learned to more and more similar situations. Then once it get the principles, we teach it to come up with even more ways to help the client. The possibilities are endless.

How do you or your clients know when it's time to update our comfort zones?

singapore bandNotice the differences  It's fascinating how varied peoples comfort zones are. Knowing that the confines of what is permitted for each of us, varies from person to person. This links to another TPM principle of "teaching the mind" that there is more than one way to be.  I have friends who are aghast that my partner and I will set off for 7 weeks to Asia and not have all the accommodation and travel booked in advance.  They find that too scary. I like to have some things unplanned. On the other hand, I meet people travelling for months or years at a time, taking it a day at a time. That would require a stretch of my comfort zone, not only about having nothing booked, but my inner mind would say - “How can I justify taking all that time out just travelling to see the world?  That’s not productive enough. I need to be working too”.

We each create our comfort zones that allow us to dance or not, to travel, to work or to play, based on our automatic interpretations of past events and our particular values.   We each are different. The point is - to make sure the confining lanes you travel along, suit the who you are now.

Do you want to dance, but find it difficult? 

Do you want to do, be, or have something different, but find it difficult?

- Would others in your shoes be able to do it easily?  If so, that’s the big clue to me that  THOUGHT PATTERNS need to be updated to reflect who you are now.  

Our conscious thinking struggles to override established patterns that determine our comfort and possibility zone - unless we work with level of mind that created them! This is exactly what Thought Pattern Management™ does.  Even if you have only scratched the surface of TPM, you can begin by applying the same principles the lead singer did, to help her audience shake off their shackles and dance. UPDATE YOUR IDENTITY!

An even more comprehensive way to update comfort zones is through teaching your mind to re-evaluate and update ALL your beliefs, values and rules that apply to your identity and what you are permitted to do, be and have in the world. In short, get new perspectives of all the reference memories that your unconscious mind refers to 95-97% of the time.  Those unquestioned reference memories and filter preferences.  We teach how, in the identity module.  The process takes less than an hour but can impact a lifetime. 


TPM Identity module makes you lighter and freer to dance

jigsawiStock 000017333045XSmall bought2.8.12Participants from the most recent 2 day TPM identity module training, reported in December that they are "feeling lighter", "free of burdens", "more colourful",  "More aligned with myself". "Comfortable in my skin".    Thought Pattern Management™ helped me update my comfort zones. I can now pretty much dance when I want.   I can also travel with the condition that I do some work and have some logistics arranged in advance. For me there is no inner conflict, I’m happy with that.   My wish for you as you end 2015 is to notice any inner conflicts in you and take action to resolve them so you can dance freely to whatever tune you wish.    ** TPM  

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Fiona has been accepted to speak at the renowned NLP conference in London in April 2016  

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